by Tara Hanover
“To love oneself is the beginning of a life-long romance.”- Oscar Wilde
We have always been told to be kind to others, respect our elders, hold the door for the person behind us, allowing them to go ahead and of course, say “please” and “thank you”. All good tips, wouldn’t you agree? As a lady raised in the south, I’d say so.
But did anyone ever tell you that these life tips should be applied to you as well?
I think we often forget that we matter, too …and we should treat ourselves with the same respect we treat others. I also think that we get so caught up in comparing ourselves to others, we forget that it is not a contest and that we need to be happy with who we are, the body we’re given and the people in our lives.
I love all of the “new movements”. The “Self Love Clubs” and the “Self Love Soldiers”. You may think it’s corny. But as corny as it may be, I definitely think it is necessary!
Here are some Self Love reminders that I’d like to offer you:Get rid of negative influences in your life. This could be a person, a cluttered home or office, an ill -fitting outfit that you can’t get rid of…anything that makes your feel bad or stressed (bye!).
- Find time for self-maintenance. I promise you, there is a direct link to “look good, feel better”.
- Set goals. Finding 5 minutes a day to sit alone in silence, being active, using a new fitness routine that has nothing to do with a gym, a new job or hobby perhaps…
- Compliment yourself on at least one thing a day! If you can’t seem to find that one thing, call a friend…I am sure they will tell you how amazing you are.
- Accept that you are not perfect. NEWSFLASH, none of us are.
- Don’t sweat the small stuff. I know, I know- easier said than done, but try to put worry in perspective. Sometimes writing it down helps.
- Get a good night’s sleep. (BAHAHAHAHA, right! )This is by far the hardest for me personally, but I do find that when I get sleep, I can handle anything much better from kids, to work, to Self Love…SLEEP IS INVALUABLE!!!
As mama always said, be respectful, kind and courteous to those around you….even if they are negative. As I tell my children, smile big as you quickly walk away.
But here is my advice to you:
Be kind to yourself.
Be respectful to yourself.
Say thank you to yourself.
Set the same standard of treatment for yourself as you would for others.
Corny or not, become your own “SELF LOVE SOLDIER” or hey better yet start a “SELF LOVE CLUB” even if you are your only member.
Get Up, Dress Up, Show Up and NEVER Give Up